How I stop feeling bad about just being me.
I love to hike with my dog off leash, but I hate when I’ve bothered people. Sometimes these values clash. I don’t always react to the annoyed people in the way I wish I would.
And then I get around it.
For years I hoped to be “discovered” as a singer, but when I was, I feared failure and bailed. Since then I’ve been afraid to ask for what I want. It’s time to change that.
What works for you may be different, but my road to happiness may give you some ideas.
The onslaught of requests for money on the street and in social media, fill me with a desire to help, but also guilt, fear of judgment, and resentment. Saying yes to alleviate my discomfort, though, leaves me ineffective. So I am learning to answer from my heart rather than guilt and to love myself in the discomfort of saying no.
“I don’t need to diminish my needs or become someone else to be able to love and forgive. In fact, I can only love and forgive others when I stop expecting them and me to be someone other than who we are.”
No Saint Jennifer discovers that we are all doing our best and in the process finds new ways to love herself and others more.